I DID A BLOG ABOUT GAY MARRIAGE AND THE CATHOLIC CHURCH. I GOT SOME VERY GOOD REPLIES BOTH FROM PEOPLE WHO AGREE WITH ME AND THE CHURCH AND SOME THAT BELIEVE THAT GAYS HAVE THE RIGHT TO MARRY TO BE HAPPY. So I would like to add a little more. I understand that I am not going to solve the problem and it is going to take years to come to a conclusion. I agree that everyone is entitled to be happy. Someone said you can’t help whom you fall in love with, and that is probably true. What you do with that love is what makes all the difference. I don’t expect everyone to change their opinion, but I think it is good to know why we don’t all agree on gay marriage.

So lets say the Catholic Church, after years of reviewing scripture and studying the tradition set by the apostles before scripture was written and given the obligation by Christ to build His Church to help us all get to Heaven, must instruct us on the best way to get there? And, if so, and if the conclusion is the homosexual acts, not the homosexual but the actions is wrong and will not get that person to Heaven, mustn’t they tell the truth? Even if it makes that person unhappy? If a child wants to do something that will make him happy, but it is dangerous for him, isn’t his parent going to say no?
Here is another article from Catholic Answers that may answer some questions. I believe the last paragraph says it all.

The Catholic Church takes a very high view of marriage and human sexuality. As the account of Genesis shows, marriage and sexuality were created by God and given to mankind as gifts for our benefit. Scripture records God’s statement that “it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him” (Gen. 2:18). As a result, “a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh” (Gen. 2:24). Some may forego the good of marriage to serve a higher calling (cf. Matt. 19:10-12), but it is a good nevertheless.
Marriage is a conduit through which God’s grace flows to the couple and their children.1 The Catholic Church understands marriage between a baptized man and woman to be a sacrament, a visible sign of the grace that God gives them to help them live their lives here and now so as to be able to join him in eternity.2 For Catholics, marriage is social as well as religious, but its religious aspects are very important. The Bible repeatedly compares the relationship between man and wife to that between God and Israel (cf. Hos. 9:1) or between Christ and his Church (cf. Eph. 5:21-32). For Catholics, marriage is a holy vocation.
Since the Church sees marriage as holy, it believes it must be treated with reverence. It also recognizes that marriage is basic to the health of society and therefore a public institution that must be defended against harm.
Marriage is a public institution. Consequently, proposals that could harm the institution of marriage must be subjected to the same sort of objective analysis that we give any public policy question. Marriage is not just a private matter of emotion between two people. On the contrary, its success or failure has measurable impact on all of society. Rational analysis yields solid, objective reasons for limiting marriage to one man and one woman-reasons anyone can agree with on purely secular grounds.
Our analysis will show that prohibition of homosexual marriage is not just a “fairness” issue, nor does it require anyone to “force religious dogma” down anyone else’s throat. Nor is it a manifestation of hatred, as proponents sometimes suggest.

How do you answer the charge that the Catholic Church or opposition to same-sex marriage is “homophobic”?
The term homophobic refers to fear of homosexuality. This term often is used by homosexual activists to end rational discussion of the issue by accusing their opponents of having an irrational fear. This is unjust. One can disagree with and be critical of a behavior without having a fear of it. When the charge of “homophobia” is made, it signifies that those making the accusation do not have reasoned responses to their critics, so they switch to portraying their critics as irrational rather than responding to their arguments.
While the Church does recognize homosexuality as disordered, this does not mean that the Church is uncompassionate to those who suffer from the disorder. The Catechism of the Catholic Church states: “Men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies . . . must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided.”3

We have to remember that all people are created in the image of God and deserve to be treated as such, no matter what their behavior. We make a distinction between person and behavior, sometimes expressed as “hate the sin, love the sinner.” The Catechism describes homosexual acts as “intrinsically disordered”: “They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.”4
So we deplore acts of discrimination or unkindness against homosexual persons, but we insist on speaking the truth about the nature of homosexual acts. This is not a phobia. It is compassion together with frank recognition of the nature of a disordered condition.


This is my last article on gay marriage. I hope this helps everyone understand the position of the Catholic and most Christians and Christian Churches. I think it is important to realize that we can agree to disagree at this point in time. If you know a homosexual male or female that is looking for answers to how to be happy in their life you will lead them to the Catholic Church for Counseling and Retreats. These sessions help a person to understand what they can do to have a fulfilling life and to be happy and untimately get to Heaven.

PRAYER FOR TODAY: GOD OUR FATHER, you sent your only Son, our Lord Jesus Christ, to bring us back from the ways of blind disobedience to the reign of light where your love rules all hearts. Keep us faithful to the gift you have given through the same Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.


A quick prayer tonight. Nothing controversial. Cor 2:16: Who has known the mind of the Lord, so as to counsel him?

GOD IS MYSTERY. The maker of the universe dwells in light inaccessible, so bright that it blinds the probing eye, the questioning mind. Yet this awesome God has taken on a human face and a human name in Jesus, his Son and Word, the Good Shepherd who carries his stumbling sheep to safe pasture.MAGNIFICAT

Proverbs 30:4-5: “WHO HAS GONE UP to heaven and come down again-who has cupped the wind in his hands? Who has bound up the waters in a cloak-who has marked out all the ends of the earth? What is his name, what is his son’s name, if you know it?” Every word of God is tested: he is a shield to those who take refuge in him.

PRAYER: O GOD HIDDEN IN LIGHT INACCESSIBLE, you have revealed the face of your love in Jesus Christ, our Lord. Grant us the grace to worship you with reverence and to entrust ourselves to you in love, through the same Christ our Lord. Amen






This is a delicate area, but I just read an article that I think was printed in the NY Times condemning the Catholic Church’s stand on gay marriage and it was all wrong. For one thing, I cannot figure out how a journalist can write an article without researching both sides. I do not believe I have ever read an article where someone has actually looked at the Catholic Churches stand on homosexuality and marriage. I will tell you that our church always welcomes homosexuals, they are God’s children as we all are. Not all Catholics are as welcoming and understanding as they should be toward other children of God, but they are human, and no human is perfect.

There are 5 non-negotiables in the Catholic Church that will not change and gay marriage is one of them. Here is a question and answer regarding gay marriage from the site:

Full Question
I am a homosexual who wishes to obey the Church’s teachings on homosexuality, but I am not sure what they are. I know that the Church teaches homosexual acts are wrong, but it teaches that all sex outside of marriage is wrong–a teaching which I support. What if two homosexuals were married to each other? Would sex between them be legitimate, and could the Church ever change its position and allow homosexuals to marry?


This is a sensitive area, and you are to be commended for your commitment to support and fulfill the Church’s teaching. The answer to both questions is no.

The reason homosexual acts are wrong is not simply that they take place outside of marriage, but that they are contrary to natural design. For various reasons, both inside and outside of their control, some people have desires that are not in accord with nature. When these desires are acted upon, the result is an unnatural and immoral act. Even if two homosexuals were “married,” they would still be having unnatural sex.

The Church cannot change its teaching on marriage, which is grounded in natural law. Under natural law a man can marry only whom he was designed to marry: a woman. He cannot validly marry another man any more than he could an animal or a plant. Any attempted marriage between a man and another man would be invalid by definition. It might be recognized by the state as a legitimate marriage, but it would not be so before God.

This is a difficult teaching to hear for one struggling with homosexual desires, but it is the truth. To get help, consider contacting Courage, a nationwide Catholic organization set up to help homosexuals lead chaste lives. Their Web address of is: Our prayers are with you.
========================================================================================================= also had many other answers to questions about homosexuals and the Church. Hopefully if someone reads an article condemning the Church they will also go to this site and find out why. As one of the Bishops in this country said a short while ago, we have people in this country that have decided that what they decide is right, is the only way. Unfortunately they forget this is a free country and not everyone has to change their values and morals just because this certain group of people decide what they think is the new religion in this country. The religion of “everything is ok if they decide it is. No good vs. evil, no right vs wrong, just feelings of what they want. Sorry, you all, but the Catholic Church and Pope Francis is not changing the basic beliefs of the Church, he is just trying to make ordinary people understand that they are welcome in our Church.
There was an article awhile ago where Pope Francis married 20 couples from different situations. He did it so that Catholics who think they are not welcome back in the Church will know that they are very welcome. Some of these couples were living together, some had children and were not married, some had been divorced and/or married in a civil ceremony, all were men marrying women. The facts that weren’t mentioned is that all these people had to want to do what was right, they would of had counseling, gone to Confession, and prior marriages investigated. They would have decided to be married before God in the Sacrament of Marriage and probably become active members again of the Church. Pope Francis did this to show couples that there is always a way back to the Catholic Church if that is what they want and they are always welcome. He did not do it to let the news media think that the Church is making changes. The Church has been marrying couples in these situations for many years. In fact my marriage came under one of these situations.

Again I say, if you want to know what the Catholic Church teaches, don’t ask another Catholic, unfortunately many Catholics are sadly uninformed about their own Church. Instead, go to and check out the facts. Another site that our Pastor says is very informative is:


O GOD OF HOPE AND GLORY, you sent John the Baptist to preach the Good News of salvation to those who received it with joy and to those who rejected its demands. By his example and intercession, grant your Church courage in proclaiming and living the Gospel, through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen



Sorry for missing a few days, but I came across an article in the Oct. CATHOLIC DIGEST about “Fear of the Lord” I’m not printing all of the article, it may be on line if you want to look. Basically someone asked Father Roland Guilmain about that question when we also say God is love.
Father said that he was raised in a generation where the concept of sin was accepted. He was taught that God would punish him if he sinned and didn’t go to confession. Because of that, he pictured God as a punishing and angry God. It wasn’t until he was in college that he learned differently and here is what he said:
“He was not a punishing God, but rather a God of unconditional, faithful, merciful, and forgiving love. With that insight I began what would be a lifelong adventure of relating with God”
“At this point we have to remember that God is totally other than what we are. God just IS; we are created beings. God is all powerful, all-knowing, mysterious, frightening. We cannot reduce him to only what we can think or imagine. That would make him too small. Only God can grant us the capacity to grasp some truth about his being. This is where holy fear becomes the beginning of wisdom.”
“In NO MAN IS AN ISLAND, THOMAS MERTON defines holy fear ‘as the knowledge of our selves in the presence of God’s holiness. It is the knowledge of ourselves in his love, and it sees how far we are from being what his love would have us be…….’
“……He is referring to what is called filial fear of the anxiety caused by the thought of being separated from God or displeasing him. It’s based on love and keeps us away from sin. This gift of fear will eventually unite us so closely to god that nothing can separate us from him. In this sense, then it is the beginning of wisdom. This gift of the Holy Spirit corresponds with humility, which make us know our true value and eliminated the presumption of believing ourselves to be better than we are.”
‘This fear of the Lord produces in us a horror for sin and gives us the strength to overcome temptations. At a deeper level it enables us to cling to God with profound reverence and avoid even insignificant acts that are signs of imperfection. It reverences everything that is divine. then, even more profoundly, it detaches us from the things of the earth and grants us a poverty of spirit by which we seek union God and avoid all that could separate us from him?”
“The Spirit of our loving Father offers us this way to unite ourselves with the Most Blessed Trinity. Let us be grateful and pray daily for the gift of the fear of the Lord.”

This seems to be a very good explanation of God and His love for us.

PRAYER: Our Father Who art in Heaven,……………………Hopefully, you all know the Our Father by Heart, if not you can find it on line. It is a wonderful prayer to learn and use daily.
God bless you all.


I am in a Bible Study Group that is studying 2 Corinthians 11:1-21. Paul talks about Boasting. One of the question in our lesson is: When is it OK to boast??? I think most people brag or boast at one time or another. I know I do when I did a good job at something. I don’t boast to get attention, I boast when I am proud of what I did, and I know it is with God’s help, but I don’t always say that When do you brag? Think about this… the Answer is Yes..but it is only legitimate to boast about the POWER THAT COMES THROUGH GOD AND FURTHERS THE GOSPEL AND GOD’S KINGDOM. This is why Paul is bragging in his letter to the Corinthians. SOMETHING FOR US TO THINK ABOUT………………..

Another question related to this Chapter: RECALL A life experience that made you feel weak and most in need of God’s strength?? It took me awhile to come up with an answer, I am sure there were many times, and then I realized that is part of MY FAITH JOURNEY. Think about this, every time we feel weak and most in need, are also the time we renew our faith in Jesus Christ. Because that is when we realize that we can’t make it without Him.

The time I thought of was when I was told by my first husband that he wanted a divorce. When it really hit me that he was moving away, and I was going to be taking care of 4 children, ages 7 to 16 by myself, I fell on my knees and prayed, many times, knowing I could not do it alone. Well, they are all grown up now, and because the Lord was there for all 5 of us, through many hard times, and many really good times, everything turned out well and my children are now wonderful, caring, Christian adults, and they also became wonderful parents. I can’t tell you how many times I asked God for help, and he was there every time we needed Him

When I came home from Bible Study, I thought of many more time and prayed and begged God to help me. It has not always been on my time, but in the end I know that the help I received came when I needed it most.

THERE IS A SONG OUT NOW, CAN’T THINK OF THE SINGER RIGHT NOW, BUT I HEAR IT ON THE STATION: KLOVE. It says something about: “I didn’t know it would be like this… And it made me start thinking of more of my Faith Stories. IN FACT, I am now 76 years old, and when I look back on my life and what I had planned when I started out, I would have to say “I didn’t know it would be like this… I has been so much better than I ever could have imagined. If we listen really hard, maybe we will understand that God wants so much more for us than we originally ask for. I pray that all of you will have so much more to life than you expect.

PRAYER; The prayer tonight is totally unrelated to the above subject. I received a request today from Catholic Relief Services to help the Christian Refugees in Iraq, Syria and Gaza. Catholic Relief Services and Caritas are working to help these families. Together, they have assisted 350,000 war affected Syrians across the region with shelter, food, medical care, and trauma counseling and education for children. In Gaza, they wait for breaks in the violence to rush in medical supplies and relief kits. CRS is committed to meeting the most urgent humanitarian needs in all 3 places, and they will remain in each of these war-torn areas for as long as there are families who need help. But they cannot do it alone, since the funds they need come mostly from donations. You can get more information at: Remember these are normal ordinary middle class families with normal lives, and all of a sudden, they are running for their lives simply because they are CHRISTIAN. Could it happen to us???THE PRAYER FOR TO NIGHT IS FOR THESE UNKNOWN REFUGEES.

A PRAYER FOR OUR UNKNOWN FRIENDS: HEAVENLY Father, welcome into your embrace our friends overseas whose names we do not know, but whose terrible plight we rush to remedy. Bless the suffering people who struggle and sacrifice on behalf of their families. Grant them sustenance, shelter and opportunity. For this we give you thanks. Amen