I DID A BLOG ABOUT GAY MARRIAGE AND THE CATHOLIC CHURCH. I GOT SOME VERY GOOD REPLIES BOTH FROM PEOPLE WHO AGREE WITH ME AND THE CHURCH AND SOME THAT BELIEVE THAT GAYS HAVE THE RIGHT TO MARRY TO BE HAPPY. So I would like to add a little more. I understand that I am not going to solve the problem and it is going to take years to come to a conclusion. I agree that everyone is entitled to be happy. Someone said you can’t help whom you fall in love with, and that is probably true. What you do with that love is what makes all the difference. I don’t expect everyone to change their opinion, but I think it is good to know why we don’t all agree on gay marriage.

So lets say the Catholic Church, after years of reviewing scripture and studying the tradition set by the apostles before scripture was written and given the obligation by Christ to build His Church to help us all get to Heaven, must instruct us on the best way to get there? And, if so, and if the conclusion is the homosexual acts, not the homosexual but the actions is wrong and will not get that person to Heaven, mustn’t they tell the truth? Even if it makes that person unhappy? If a child wants to do something that will make him happy, but it is dangerous for him, isn’t his parent going to say no?
Here is another article from Catholic Answers that may answer some questions. I believe the last paragraph says it all.

The Catholic Church takes a very high view of marriage and human sexuality. As the account of Genesis shows, marriage and sexuality were created by God and given to mankind as gifts for our benefit. Scripture records God’s statement that “it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him” (Gen. 2:18). As a result, “a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh” (Gen. 2:24). Some may forego the good of marriage to serve a higher calling (cf. Matt. 19:10-12), but it is a good nevertheless.
Marriage is a conduit through which God’s grace flows to the couple and their children.1 The Catholic Church understands marriage between a baptized man and woman to be a sacrament, a visible sign of the grace that God gives them to help them live their lives here and now so as to be able to join him in eternity.2 For Catholics, marriage is social as well as religious, but its religious aspects are very important. The Bible repeatedly compares the relationship between man and wife to that between God and Israel (cf. Hos. 9:1) or between Christ and his Church (cf. Eph. 5:21-32). For Catholics, marriage is a holy vocation.
Since the Church sees marriage as holy, it believes it must be treated with reverence. It also recognizes that marriage is basic to the health of society and therefore a public institution that must be defended against harm.
Marriage is a public institution. Consequently, proposals that could harm the institution of marriage must be subjected to the same sort of objective analysis that we give any public policy question. Marriage is not just a private matter of emotion between two people. On the contrary, its success or failure has measurable impact on all of society. Rational analysis yields solid, objective reasons for limiting marriage to one man and one woman-reasons anyone can agree with on purely secular grounds.
Our analysis will show that prohibition of homosexual marriage is not just a “fairness” issue, nor does it require anyone to “force religious dogma” down anyone else’s throat. Nor is it a manifestation of hatred, as proponents sometimes suggest.

How do you answer the charge that the Catholic Church or opposition to same-sex marriage is “homophobic”?
The term homophobic refers to fear of homosexuality. This term often is used by homosexual activists to end rational discussion of the issue by accusing their opponents of having an irrational fear. This is unjust. One can disagree with and be critical of a behavior without having a fear of it. When the charge of “homophobia” is made, it signifies that those making the accusation do not have reasoned responses to their critics, so they switch to portraying their critics as irrational rather than responding to their arguments.
While the Church does recognize homosexuality as disordered, this does not mean that the Church is uncompassionate to those who suffer from the disorder. The Catechism of the Catholic Church states: “Men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies . . . must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided.”3

We have to remember that all people are created in the image of God and deserve to be treated as such, no matter what their behavior. We make a distinction between person and behavior, sometimes expressed as “hate the sin, love the sinner.” The Catechism describes homosexual acts as “intrinsically disordered”: “They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.”4
So we deplore acts of discrimination or unkindness against homosexual persons, but we insist on speaking the truth about the nature of homosexual acts. This is not a phobia. It is compassion together with frank recognition of the nature of a disordered condition.


This is my last article on gay marriage. I hope this helps everyone understand the position of the Catholic and most Christians and Christian Churches. I think it is important to realize that we can agree to disagree at this point in time. If you know a homosexual male or female that is looking for answers to how to be happy in their life you will lead them to the Catholic Church for Counseling and Retreats. These sessions help a person to understand what they can do to have a fulfilling life and to be happy and untimately get to Heaven.

PRAYER FOR TODAY: GOD OUR FATHER, you sent your only Son, our Lord Jesus Christ, to bring us back from the ways of blind disobedience to the reign of light where your love rules all hearts. Keep us faithful to the gift you have given through the same Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.


A quick prayer tonight. Nothing controversial. Cor 2:16: Who has known the mind of the Lord, so as to counsel him?

GOD IS MYSTERY. The maker of the universe dwells in light inaccessible, so bright that it blinds the probing eye, the questioning mind. Yet this awesome God has taken on a human face and a human name in Jesus, his Son and Word, the Good Shepherd who carries his stumbling sheep to safe pasture.MAGNIFICAT

Proverbs 30:4-5: “WHO HAS GONE UP to heaven and come down again-who has cupped the wind in his hands? Who has bound up the waters in a cloak-who has marked out all the ends of the earth? What is his name, what is his son’s name, if you know it?” Every word of God is tested: he is a shield to those who take refuge in him.

PRAYER: O GOD HIDDEN IN LIGHT INACCESSIBLE, you have revealed the face of your love in Jesus Christ, our Lord. Grant us the grace to worship you with reverence and to entrust ourselves to you in love, through the same Christ our Lord. Amen






This is a delicate area, but I just read an article that I think was printed in the NY Times condemning the Catholic Church’s stand on gay marriage and it was all wrong. For one thing, I cannot figure out how a journalist can write an article without researching both sides. I do not believe I have ever read an article where someone has actually looked at the Catholic Churches stand on homosexuality and marriage. I will tell you that our church always welcomes homosexuals, they are God’s children as we all are. Not all Catholics are as welcoming and understanding as they should be toward other children of God, but they are human, and no human is perfect.

There are 5 non-negotiables in the Catholic Church that will not change and gay marriage is one of them. Here is a question and answer regarding gay marriage from the site:

Full Question
I am a homosexual who wishes to obey the Church’s teachings on homosexuality, but I am not sure what they are. I know that the Church teaches homosexual acts are wrong, but it teaches that all sex outside of marriage is wrong–a teaching which I support. What if two homosexuals were married to each other? Would sex between them be legitimate, and could the Church ever change its position and allow homosexuals to marry?


This is a sensitive area, and you are to be commended for your commitment to support and fulfill the Church’s teaching. The answer to both questions is no.

The reason homosexual acts are wrong is not simply that they take place outside of marriage, but that they are contrary to natural design. For various reasons, both inside and outside of their control, some people have desires that are not in accord with nature. When these desires are acted upon, the result is an unnatural and immoral act. Even if two homosexuals were “married,” they would still be having unnatural sex.

The Church cannot change its teaching on marriage, which is grounded in natural law. Under natural law a man can marry only whom he was designed to marry: a woman. He cannot validly marry another man any more than he could an animal or a plant. Any attempted marriage between a man and another man would be invalid by definition. It might be recognized by the state as a legitimate marriage, but it would not be so before God.

This is a difficult teaching to hear for one struggling with homosexual desires, but it is the truth. To get help, consider contacting Courage, a nationwide Catholic organization set up to help homosexuals lead chaste lives. Their Web address of is: Our prayers are with you.
========================================================================================================= also had many other answers to questions about homosexuals and the Church. Hopefully if someone reads an article condemning the Church they will also go to this site and find out why. As one of the Bishops in this country said a short while ago, we have people in this country that have decided that what they decide is right, is the only way. Unfortunately they forget this is a free country and not everyone has to change their values and morals just because this certain group of people decide what they think is the new religion in this country. The religion of “everything is ok if they decide it is. No good vs. evil, no right vs wrong, just feelings of what they want. Sorry, you all, but the Catholic Church and Pope Francis is not changing the basic beliefs of the Church, he is just trying to make ordinary people understand that they are welcome in our Church.
There was an article awhile ago where Pope Francis married 20 couples from different situations. He did it so that Catholics who think they are not welcome back in the Church will know that they are very welcome. Some of these couples were living together, some had children and were not married, some had been divorced and/or married in a civil ceremony, all were men marrying women. The facts that weren’t mentioned is that all these people had to want to do what was right, they would of had counseling, gone to Confession, and prior marriages investigated. They would have decided to be married before God in the Sacrament of Marriage and probably become active members again of the Church. Pope Francis did this to show couples that there is always a way back to the Catholic Church if that is what they want and they are always welcome. He did not do it to let the news media think that the Church is making changes. The Church has been marrying couples in these situations for many years. In fact my marriage came under one of these situations.

Again I say, if you want to know what the Catholic Church teaches, don’t ask another Catholic, unfortunately many Catholics are sadly uninformed about their own Church. Instead, go to and check out the facts. Another site that our Pastor says is very informative is:


O GOD OF HOPE AND GLORY, you sent John the Baptist to preach the Good News of salvation to those who received it with joy and to those who rejected its demands. By his example and intercession, grant your Church courage in proclaiming and living the Gospel, through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen



Sorry for missing a few days, but I came across an article in the Oct. CATHOLIC DIGEST about “Fear of the Lord” I’m not printing all of the article, it may be on line if you want to look. Basically someone asked Father Roland Guilmain about that question when we also say God is love.
Father said that he was raised in a generation where the concept of sin was accepted. He was taught that God would punish him if he sinned and didn’t go to confession. Because of that, he pictured God as a punishing and angry God. It wasn’t until he was in college that he learned differently and here is what he said:
“He was not a punishing God, but rather a God of unconditional, faithful, merciful, and forgiving love. With that insight I began what would be a lifelong adventure of relating with God”
“At this point we have to remember that God is totally other than what we are. God just IS; we are created beings. God is all powerful, all-knowing, mysterious, frightening. We cannot reduce him to only what we can think or imagine. That would make him too small. Only God can grant us the capacity to grasp some truth about his being. This is where holy fear becomes the beginning of wisdom.”
“In NO MAN IS AN ISLAND, THOMAS MERTON defines holy fear ‘as the knowledge of our selves in the presence of God’s holiness. It is the knowledge of ourselves in his love, and it sees how far we are from being what his love would have us be…….’
“……He is referring to what is called filial fear of the anxiety caused by the thought of being separated from God or displeasing him. It’s based on love and keeps us away from sin. This gift of fear will eventually unite us so closely to god that nothing can separate us from him. In this sense, then it is the beginning of wisdom. This gift of the Holy Spirit corresponds with humility, which make us know our true value and eliminated the presumption of believing ourselves to be better than we are.”
‘This fear of the Lord produces in us a horror for sin and gives us the strength to overcome temptations. At a deeper level it enables us to cling to God with profound reverence and avoid even insignificant acts that are signs of imperfection. It reverences everything that is divine. then, even more profoundly, it detaches us from the things of the earth and grants us a poverty of spirit by which we seek union God and avoid all that could separate us from him?”
“The Spirit of our loving Father offers us this way to unite ourselves with the Most Blessed Trinity. Let us be grateful and pray daily for the gift of the fear of the Lord.”

This seems to be a very good explanation of God and His love for us.

PRAYER: Our Father Who art in Heaven,……………………Hopefully, you all know the Our Father by Heart, if not you can find it on line. It is a wonderful prayer to learn and use daily.
God bless you all.


I am in a Bible Study Group that is studying 2 Corinthians 11:1-21. Paul talks about Boasting. One of the question in our lesson is: When is it OK to boast??? I think most people brag or boast at one time or another. I know I do when I did a good job at something. I don’t boast to get attention, I boast when I am proud of what I did, and I know it is with God’s help, but I don’t always say that When do you brag? Think about this… the Answer is Yes..but it is only legitimate to boast about the POWER THAT COMES THROUGH GOD AND FURTHERS THE GOSPEL AND GOD’S KINGDOM. This is why Paul is bragging in his letter to the Corinthians. SOMETHING FOR US TO THINK ABOUT………………..

Another question related to this Chapter: RECALL A life experience that made you feel weak and most in need of God’s strength?? It took me awhile to come up with an answer, I am sure there were many times, and then I realized that is part of MY FAITH JOURNEY. Think about this, every time we feel weak and most in need, are also the time we renew our faith in Jesus Christ. Because that is when we realize that we can’t make it without Him.

The time I thought of was when I was told by my first husband that he wanted a divorce. When it really hit me that he was moving away, and I was going to be taking care of 4 children, ages 7 to 16 by myself, I fell on my knees and prayed, many times, knowing I could not do it alone. Well, they are all grown up now, and because the Lord was there for all 5 of us, through many hard times, and many really good times, everything turned out well and my children are now wonderful, caring, Christian adults, and they also became wonderful parents. I can’t tell you how many times I asked God for help, and he was there every time we needed Him

When I came home from Bible Study, I thought of many more time and prayed and begged God to help me. It has not always been on my time, but in the end I know that the help I received came when I needed it most.

THERE IS A SONG OUT NOW, CAN’T THINK OF THE SINGER RIGHT NOW, BUT I HEAR IT ON THE STATION: KLOVE. It says something about: “I didn’t know it would be like this… And it made me start thinking of more of my Faith Stories. IN FACT, I am now 76 years old, and when I look back on my life and what I had planned when I started out, I would have to say “I didn’t know it would be like this… I has been so much better than I ever could have imagined. If we listen really hard, maybe we will understand that God wants so much more for us than we originally ask for. I pray that all of you will have so much more to life than you expect.

PRAYER; The prayer tonight is totally unrelated to the above subject. I received a request today from Catholic Relief Services to help the Christian Refugees in Iraq, Syria and Gaza. Catholic Relief Services and Caritas are working to help these families. Together, they have assisted 350,000 war affected Syrians across the region with shelter, food, medical care, and trauma counseling and education for children. In Gaza, they wait for breaks in the violence to rush in medical supplies and relief kits. CRS is committed to meeting the most urgent humanitarian needs in all 3 places, and they will remain in each of these war-torn areas for as long as there are families who need help. But they cannot do it alone, since the funds they need come mostly from donations. You can get more information at: Remember these are normal ordinary middle class families with normal lives, and all of a sudden, they are running for their lives simply because they are CHRISTIAN. Could it happen to us???THE PRAYER FOR TO NIGHT IS FOR THESE UNKNOWN REFUGEES.

A PRAYER FOR OUR UNKNOWN FRIENDS: HEAVENLY Father, welcome into your embrace our friends overseas whose names we do not know, but whose terrible plight we rush to remedy. Bless the suffering people who struggle and sacrifice on behalf of their families. Grant them sustenance, shelter and opportunity. For this we give you thanks. Amen


This scripture was the first reading at Mass today. I love this reading, to tell the truth it always brings tears to my eyes.
IF I SPEAK IN HUMAN AND ANGELIC tongues but do not have love, I am a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal. And if I have the gift of prophecy and comprehend all mysteries and all knowledge; if I have all faith so as to move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away everything I own, and if I hand my body over so that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, love is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails. If there are prophecies, they will be brought to nothing; if tongues, they will cease; if knowledge, it will be brought to nothing. For we know partially and we prophesy partially, but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. When I was a child, I used to talk as a child, think as a child, reason as a child; when I became a man, I put aside childish things. At present we see indistinctly, as in a mirror, but then face to face. At present I know partially; then I shall know fully, as I am fully known. SO FAITH, HOPE, LOVE REMAIN, THESE THREE; BUT THE GRREATEST OF THESE IS LOVE. The word of the Lord.

Wow, if only we all went by this, how much better the world would be. Just how much better Marriages would be. We must pray for more love and forgiveness for ourselves and others.

PRAYER: IN JOY WE PRAY: LORD DRAW ALL PEOPLE TO YOURSELF! Where there is hatred, let us sow love. Where there is darkness let us bring light. Where there is sadness, let us bring joy.
Lord God of light, you have shone upon our darkness and set us free through the Death and Resurrection of Jesus Christ. Grant us the grace to live in the freedom of the children of God, that where we walk this day, we may bring light, through the same Christ our Lord. Amen


ON SUNDAY WE CELEBRATED THE EXALTATION OF THE HOLY CROSS, the cross, instrument of torture and death, raised aloft as a sign of glory, continues to confound the wisdom of this world. God’s work of salvation stands human expectations on their head: humility is exaltation, wounds are healing, death is life. (Magnificat)
ON MONDAY (TODAY) IS THE MEMORIAL OF OUR LADY OF SORROWS. You need endurance to do the will of God and receive what he has promised.(Heb 10:35) GOD’S WORD CUT DEEPLY into Mary’s life; it cut away all the ordinary hopes a young woman might have for her future, for her family life, for her child. YET SHE ACCEPTED WITH A COURAGEOUS CONSENT that anticipates and mirrors the obedience of her Son “EVEN UNTO DEATH ON A CROSS.”(Phil 2:8)
As you can see we celebrate the glory of Jesus, and then the consent and sorrow of His Mother. Can you imagine the sorrow of seeing her son suffer so greatly and die and she could do nothing to help him? Even though she knew it was God’s will and she had been told her soul would be pierced with a sword, she never could have imagined what seeing what her son would go through. So, now that Jesus has made his mother the Queen of Heaven, she can definitely understand our suffering, and gladly pray for us. (me)
THE BLESSED VIRGIN WAS BORN TO BE THE MOTHER OF GOD. FROM THE FIRST moment of Mary’s immaculate presence (and we know she had no original sin, because God would not allow His son to be born from a woman with sin)in her mother’s womb, our Lady has led us to her Son. From the cross, Christ commands, “Behold, your mother.” As the Savior’s dying gift to us, Jesus leads us back to Mary. For we need the maternal closeness of the SORROWFUL MOTHER to sustain us when overcome by the terrifying trials of life. Through Mary’s compassionate presence at the cross, that event-as it recurs in our life-becomes more deeply human, filling us with the courage to face life’s sufferings, certain in the secure embrace of divine providence. Whenever Mary loves us, she gives us JESUS. By obeying the Lord in our devout beholding of the Mother of God, we give Mary the chance to speak her YES to the “annunciation” uttered from the cross: “BEHOLD, YOUR SON.” (Magnificat)

PRAYER: GOD OUR FATHER, THE BLESSED VIRGIN MARY took part in her Son’s redemptive suffering for love of you and for the sake of the world. Through her intercession, may all your Church’s suffering bear saving fruit in Christ our Lord. Amen.


THE EXALTATION OF THE CROSS consists in the fact that “the event of the Cross and Resurrection abides and draws everything toward life” (Catholicism page 1085). We exalt Christ’s cross whenever we freely take it up, filled with the certainty that the ultimate meaning and fulfillment which we crave in life comes to us through this unending event. “With the cross we are freed from the restraint of the enemy and we clutch on to the strength of salvation: (Saint Theodore the Estudite). For salvation means escape from our own inability. At the same time, “we cannot produce or give any other fruit,” writes Saint Catherine of Siena, “but the fruit we have taken from the tree of life.” No wonder that “the sign of the cross makes kings of all those reborn in Christ” (Saint Leo the Great.) Magnificat

JESUS SAID TO NICODEMUS: “No one has gone up to heaven except the one who has come down from heaven, the Son of Man. And just as Moses lifted up the serpent in the desert, so must the Son of Man be lifted up, so that everyone who believes in him may have eternal life.”
FOR GOD SO LOVED the world that HE gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him might not perish but might have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through him.

FROM OUR PASTOR IN OUR BULLETIN TODAY: WE ARE TOLD TODAY, that God so loved the world that he gave his only son to make us well, whole, and to create a new covenant with His people. This great gift shows perfect UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. It is a goal that we strive for, as we journey in faith. Putting another person first is the beginning of loving as God does. May this be what we try to do guided by of God. (Fr. Joseph)

I wonder if we would have the divorce rate in the country that we have if husbands put their wife’s needs first, and if wives put their husband’s needs first. Then each would feel they were truly loved by their spouse. Isn’t that what marriage is supposed to be? Marriage between husband and wife is a Sacrament. When we marry before God, there are three people involved in our marriage. Husband, Wife and God. If we call on God to help us put our spouse first, he will give us the GRACE we need to make our marriage work. It’s not easy, but it is well worth the work it takes. Why is it, a person will work so hard to make money, or to make someone else’s business successful, or to get in shape to run a race, but will put no work into understanding how to make their marriage work? Jesus loved each of us so much he died for us on the cross. Can we not at least love each other enough to understand how to make each other feel loved and respected?

PRAYER; LORD JESUS CHRIST, by your Death on the cross, you triumphed over sin and death. Raise our fallen world to the glory no human wisdom can expect, who live and reign with the Father in the unity of the Holy Spirit, on God, for ever and ever. Amen

God bless you all and if you are married, I pray you will receive the Grace you need to love and respect each other, treat each other as you want to be treated and obey the commandment given to us by Jesus Christ, “Love the Lord thy God, and Love thy neighbor(spouse) as thyself”. If you don’t love and respect yourself, it is hard to love and respect another, pray for the Grace to love and respect yourself also.