BOYS SHOULD BE BOYS TO BECOME TRUE MEN b:Anthony Esolen

Hi all, another great article in the NCR. Here is part of it:

Which cultures, pagan  or Christian, made a point to rease boys to become strong and healthy men, fit to work hard, marry, raise children and unite with their fellow men in teams to hunt or fish on the open sea, drive herds of large animals, fight enemies, dredge harbors, did canals, clear fields, hew stone from the earth, lay roads, raise up public buildings and otherwise secure the common good?

Which cultures, pagan or Christian, provided boys with men to train them and teach them, with rites of passage to mark that they had left childhood behind, to be accepted publicly as men in full?

That is an easy question to answer. All of them. No exceptions.

That we are here to ask about it testifies to what they did. Mankind would not have survived otherwise. Look about you, even in our time, and remove, one by one, every house, building, automobile, road, appliance fuel line, telephone pole, train, ship, plane–you see the point. Feminism is conceivable only in that post-industrial world, wherein most people are conveniently far from the hard and dangerous physical labor that makes their case possible. We do not need most men to dig and plow or to hoist quarter-ton stones on a pulley and sledge. But we do still need men, the same kinds of beings who in other ages and other circumstances would have done those things.

Human nature has not changes. The nature of boys and men has not changed. Good teachers work with and not against the nature of their students. We Roman Catholics believe that such nature, though compromised by original sin is God-ordained and good and that grace does not obliterate nature, but elevates it, purifies it. That includes the nature of boys.

For this reason I wrote DEFENDING BOYHOOD. I am not saying that our shabby neglect of boys is the worst feature of our political, cultural and ecclesiastical confusion. I don’t need to make that case. Nor do I imply anything about our treatment of girls, or about other measures we might take to assist the poor or to fill our churches with child-rich families once more and our rectories with young and energetic priests.

I think I am on sure ground, though, when I say that without strong families, the poor tend to remain poor, bad neighborhoods grow worse, schools become places of violence and chaos and futility–and the spires of churches come down. You will not get those strong families if you do not raise strong men. It is not the only thing you must do, not by a long shot, but it is necessary. Any you will not get strong men unless YOU PAY ATTENTION TO BOYS. And that means, as I have suggested, WORKING WITH AND NOT AGAINST THEIR NATURAL INCLINATIONS.

To be cont.d tomorrow………………………….

 

 

 

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TINY MIRACLES-Premature Babies Attest to the Dignity of Life

Hi all, I could not resist sharing this article from the NCR, June 9, with you.

He weighed less than 10 ounces when he was delivered by emergency cesarean at 24 weeks and five days. /when he was released from a Japanese hospital six months after his birth, he had grown to more than 7 pounds. According to a registry maintained by the University of Iowa, this micropreemie holds the record for the smallest newborn boy to be discharged from a hospital in good health.

Now anotoher baby has been recognized by the registry. “The smallest surviving baby in the world was released this month from a San Diago hospital after being born at just 8.6.” Fox 5 San Diego reported May 29.  Saybie, born at 23 weeks and three days in December, weighed 5.6 pounds when released from the neonatal intensive care unit.

These tiny babies reflect a study published in THE NEW ENGLAND JOURNAL OF MEDICINE that found that there are premature babies surviving outside the womb earlier than doctors once thought possible.

“Now, 90% of babies born at 28 weeks will survive.” Dr. William Stigall, a Catholic pediatric intensive at Cook Children’s Medical Center in Forth Worth, Texas, to the Register. “Now 23-24 weeks is the age of viability, meaning 50% of those babies will survive.”

Linda Raleigh’s youngest two children (no. 6&7) were born prematurely, one four weeks early and the other five.  Both premature babies spent weeks in the NICU, but now that they are 15 and 11 years old, it’s clear that being born early did not negatively impact them in mind or body.   “It really made me trust God a lot,” she added.  “He wants these little people born. They’re willed into existence by God.”

Giving a preemie required treatment is not always simple-or inexpensive. That’s where the line of viability can come into play, with some health care providers declining to treat infants born at an earlier stage. That NEW ENGLAND JOURNAL OF MEDICINE STUDY, for instance, found that hospitals vary widely in their approach to 22 week-olds: A few offered no active medical treatment, and at the other end of the spectrum, a handful offered assertive treatments.  Stigall explains that there are differences between ordinary and extraordinary interventions–something one must do and something one can do.  —-What doesn’t change is the infinite worth of that person.” he said. “The primary concern is the patient.

For Jessica Spradlin, that seemed obvious when she went into preterm labor and her son Kailor Dean was born at 22 weeks and four days, at the local hospital-closer than the facility where her specialist worked,  But the local hospital’s policy was to provide care for babies born at 23 weeks – and Kailor was a few days younger than that. So he received no medical assistance, and he died 51 minutes after being born.

“This is a baby that was prayed for, wanted and loved from the beginning.” recalled Spradlin. “They could have tried and failed, but at least they would have know every effort was made.”

Now Spradlin is focused on raising awareness of the fact that hospitals can have different policies for providing care to preemies – a fact that could literally make the difference between life and death. Even with assertive treatment and care, not every prematurely born baby will survive, but the miracle of life is clear, no mater how short its span.

She was just 21 years old when she gave birth to her fist son, Joshua, at 33 weeks and five days. —-now 16 years old, that prematurely born baby is a driving, piano playing, potential future law student. “  “I think the argument that it’s just a ‘clump of cells’ should be unraveling,” his mother said. 

by: Elisabeth Deffner

There you have it, the value of an unborn child, created by God, is unlimited. I know when a woman become unexpectedly pregnant, it can be frightening. The question, “What am I going to do now?” is definitely a problem. However, there are free clinics that will help her through the 9 months and beyond. If you know someone or if it happens to you, please call Catholic Charities or look in the phone book or call the birthing section of a hospital. Someone will know where there is a clinic and help, even a home for unwed mothers if you need that help, don’t go to Planned Parenthood or another abortion provider. Abortion is not the answer. If you can’t care for your child, someone else can and you can get back to your life.  Please act Responsibly.