LOVE, LOSS, AND COURAGE-THE DECISION TO CARRY A BABY TO TERM

ARTICLE  from the December CATHOLIC DIGEST by Carolee McGrath.  I just read this article and wanted to post the help available for parents who are told by their doctors that there is something wrong with their child and they should abort.

This article is about several couples who upon being told their child would not live, or were told by their doctor that “a diagnosis like this is incompatible with life. Then there was a long pause and he said, ‘So the next steps would be to schedule a time for you to come in for the procedure.’ Their doctor got very short with them and could not believe they would want to carry their baby to term.”

For all these couples, it was pretty much the same thing, everyone assumed they would abort since their baby wasn’t perfect, and would be ill or die shortly after birth.  They all said the same thing, THEY NEEDED SUPPORT TO HELP THEM THROUGH. For Steve and Annmarie while some people questioned and even criticized their decision to have their baby, Angelica, they said “God guided them to Isaiah’s Promise, an organization that supports parents who choose life after receiving a similar diagnosis.  The founder of Isaiah’s Promise, who had experienced the same grief, responded with immediate help for the couple.”

“SUPPORTING PARENTS CARRYING TO TERM IS A PRIVILEGE. BEING A PART OF ANY BABY’S STORY IS A GIFT, AND WHEN A PRENATAL DIAGNOSIS GIVES THE INDICATION THAT A LIFE MAY BE ESPECIALLY FRAIL OR BRIEF, EVERY MOMENT BECOMES MORE PRECIOUS.,” Tracy of BE NOT AFRAID said.

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Come to find out there are several organization ready to support parents who make the correct but tough decision to carry their baby to term. Here is a list:

ISAIAH’S PROMISE, STARTED IN 1996. IN THE WASHINGTON, DC AREA.

BE NOT AFRAID,A CATHOLIC NON-PROFIT LAUCHED BY THREE MOTHERS IN 2009 IN THE DIOCESE OF CHARLOTTE, NORTH CAROLINA.

MY CHILD MY GIFT IN THE DIOCESE OF PROVIDENCE, RHODE ISLAND. STARTED BY MADELINE NUGENT.

Also: books written by women with the same experiences:

MY CHILD, MY GIFT: A POSITIVE RESPONSE TO SERIOUS PRENATAL DIAGNOSIS. by Madeline Nugent of  Rhode Island

FOR THE LOVE OF ANGELA, written by Nancy Mayer-Whittington who began Isaiah’s Promise.

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I hope that this information will help women and couples who have to make these kinds of decisions and give them the support they need. If you want to help or start a group in your area, You could contact one of these groups.  The article mentions that there are several other groups and Tracy Winsor of Be Not Afraid, in Charlotte, North Carolina, also refers couples to other groups.

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SHE PNDERED THESE THINGS IN HER HEART (Luke 2:51)

MARY HOLDS CHRIST AGAIN- by Rachel Oberman
One Sunday after Mass, I approached a woman whose husband had died to offer my condolences. she proceeded to describe, in loving detail, her husband’s final hours: how she had stayed by his side in prayer and held him in her arms for a long while after his death. She spoke with great emotion and, when I looked to my side, I was startled to see my eleven-year-old daughter Lily listening intently. My first instinct was a desire to shield her from the powerful emotions she was witnessing. I worried that Lily might be overwhelmed by the woman’s sorrow, and too immature to sense her underlying joy at having loved her husband to the end.
When we talked later I could see that, without my planning it, something beautiful had happened: Lily had been moved by the widow’s words. A few days later she was given an assignment to write about and illustrate an act of kindness. Without hesitation, she described the woman holding her deceased husband as having reminded her of Mary holding Jesus after the crucifixion, and drew a diptych with the Pieta’ on one side and the widow holding her husband on the other.
My human instinct to shield my daughter from sorrow might have deprived her of an encounter that revealed something a mere discussion of love and death never could. MAY I TRUST LESS IN MY OWN STRATEGIES AND MORE IN GOD’S CAPACITY TO REVEAL HIMSELF TO MY CHILDREN IN THE REALITY OF THEIR DAILY LIVES.
Rachel Oberman lives in Brooklyn with her husband and five daughters. She is an adjunct professor of English at New York City College of Technology.
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My thoughts after reading this…..out of the mouth of babes.. wow, God works wonders in our and our children’s lives. LET GO AND LET GOD seems to apply. What do you think?
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I also have another thought. What if this husband had decided to opt out of life early by committing assisted suicide? Or what if the wife had decided he should die early by assisting him to die? How much love would both she and her husband lost? What comfort would she have missed had he died early? What would Lily have missed had the woman talked about assisted suicide? Your thoughts?

RESPECT FOR LIFE MONTH

I AM NOT SURE ABOUT THE COUNTRY, BUT THE CATHOLIC CHURCH IS CELEBRATING RESPECT FOR LIFE THIS MONTH. This not only means we are pro-life when it comes to abortion, murder of the unborn child, or when it comes to assisted suicide or when it comes to euthanasia or killing of the elderly, etc. but we are talking about RESPECTING ALL LIFE, FROM CONCEPTION TO NATURAL DEATH. ALL LIFE IS PRECIOUS. The Bible says, God knows our name before we were conceived and He has a plan for each of us.

Our priest gave a wonderful sermon 2 weeks ago which I meant to write up right while I still remembered most of it, but that did not happen. Now, this is the important part that I remember.

WE WILL NOT END THE DISREPECT FOR LIFE IN THIS COUNTRY UNTIL WE START RESPECTING OURSELVES. EACH ONE OF US HAS TO RESPECT OURSELVES AND OUR BODIES AS IF GOD MADE US AND IS WITH US ALL THE TIME. WHICH HE IS. WE ALSO NEED TO RESPECT EACH AND EVERY OTHER PERSON FOR THE SAME REASON. Until each and every one of us starts treating ourselves and every other person as a CHILD OF GOD, WITH RESPECT, nothing is this country or the world for that mater, is going to change.

The Women I have heard speak, who have abortions, say that it is usually out of desperation or because they know of no other alternative. There are other alternatives, and there has to be a way to help each and every one find them. Assisted suicide is also out of desperation and pain. Pain which with good care, could be eliminated until natural death. It seems to me it is often others who do not want to see their loved one suffer, who offer that solution. Usually there are other ways to alleviate pain. To not help an older person or disabled person to live comfortably until the end of their time, by not providing the necessary help or treatment is just plain murder. Is our Country coming to this????

MOST OF US ARE PRO LIFE WHEN IT COMES TO OURSELVES, why not for the helpless unborn and everyone else? I AGREE WITH THE PRIEST, WE MUST START RESPECTING EACH AND EVERY OTHER PERSON. AS JESUS SAID: “love your neighbor as yourself”. However that is hard to do when a person has no love or respect for their own selves. AND THAT IS WHERE WE MUST START TO CHANGE IN THIS COUNTRY.

LOVE YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD, GOD DOES NOT MAKE JUNK, HE HAS WONDERFUL PLANS FOR YOU AND HE LOVES YOU NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO OR HOW YOU LOOK. THEN LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF, FOR THE SAME REASON.

LET US MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THIS COUNTRY, LET IT START WITH EACH OF US AND PASS IT ON!!!!!!!!!!!!